Goals of Respectful Parenting:
1- Raise children who we have deep, soulful relationships with ALL our lives. According to extensive research, it is these parent-child relationships that lead to successful and fulfilling lives.
2- Raise children who have intrinsic motivation and don’t do...
I feel like I’ve written everything there is to write about kids and their big feelings- from a one-year-old to 18-year-olds.
Why they happen.
What to do.
How to respond.
What not to say.
What TO say.
What to never ever say.
But let me see today if I can push myself and make it super duper...
When they do something positive,
1- Many times, we don’t need to say anything. Kids aren’t weak creatures who need accolades and praise any time they make good choices. They also don’t need “positive reinforcements” in forms of praise. That’s an outdated idea...
Victim versus Survivor
After you’ve survived victimhood, you become a survivor.
That’s why it’s impossible to be both at the same time.
True survivors usually don’t call themselves victims.
Why, you ask?
Because it doesn’t serve us. A huge part of being a survivor is...
Here’s something I shared when I was in Pakistan last year. I was there with the kids and Eisa is very close to my dad and my dad insisted that he sleep with him. So pretty much- he slept with my parents for a whole month before this happened.... ******
Tonight was rough, y’all.
I’m going to tell you a secret to increase your patience with your sweet kids.
Sometimes when we first become familiar with respectful parenting, it's easy to fall into the trap of thinking that setting boundaries is altogether not part of this kind of parenting.
We tend to start veering...
For all our kids’ lives, even when they’re teenagers, we all benefit from setting up an environment of success.
For example, if you want to start eating healthy, you will stop buying junk food and bringing it to your house. Yes?
You won’t tempt yourself with a situation where...
How To Stop Unwanted Behavior
1- Use positive language, instead of “Don’t run!”, try “Please, walk”
- Matlab (eg.) instead of saying what they shouldn’t do, say what they CAN do.
2- Redirect. Matlab (eg.) give options that work for you both. “I...
Like my kids would say NERD ALERT NERD ALERT!
Who’s ready to go into nerd zone with me?
I’m SO excited to start a three-part series of posts about brain science here. It’s gonna be different from anything I’ve written before because it’s going to explore the...
I can see how it appears that way to you.
As they say, "The kids who need the most love, ask for it in the hardest ways..."
I invite you to reflect on the following...
Wherever kids go, people judge them based on their behavior in the few minutes they observe them. We hear all kinds of comments....