Potty Training

#toddlerstruggles

This is the only child-rearing thing that I have no strong opinions about... you never thought you’d hear that from me, did you?

That’s because this is a temporary thing, I say do what works and get it over with.

The only thing I’d say please don’t do is...

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STEP 3- Doing The Work Of Healing

Changing our brain wiring is no easy task. It’s monumental and it’s the bravest thing you’ll ever do. Making small consistent changes adds up and a few months later you’ll notice that you’re doing better.

1- Find your spiritual safe space

Repeated research has shown...

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Mental Health and Stigma

VERY Unpopular opinion: If you have a lot of problems overcoming your anger and irritation with your kids- speak to your doctor about taking anti-anxiety medication.

When you’re raised with suppressed emotions, it’s a form of emotional neglect (officially classified as an ACE-Adverse...

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Connecting With Our Kids Over Video Games.

Have you noticed that most of us hate electronics for our kids but can't survive without them ourselves?

This was a sort of revelation to me one day- as obvious as it seems right now to say.

But it feels so so hard when all our older kids wanna talk about is their video games or you tube videos...

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Nuturing Our Child's Strength.

Have you noticed that most of us hate electronics for our kids but can't survive without them ourselves?

This was a sort of revelation to me one day- as obvious as it seems right now to say.

But it feels so so hard when all our older kids wanna talk about is their video games or you tube videos...

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A Beautiful Example Of What Co-regulation Looks Like

The twins wake up at 7am on the dot every morning.

Just like most Pakistani parents from my parents’ generation, my parents put me to sleep with them around 11pm-12am and so, I have a messed up circadian rhythm and I’m not a morning person.

BUT I was determined my kids WILL be morning...

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On Giving Advice

As someone who gives advice as a living, I have learned a few things about advice-giving in general, whether we’re talking to kids or adults:

1- Most of the time (99%), no one is really looking for advice when they share hard stuff or when hard stuff is happening.. they’re just...

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What Causes Repeated Bad Behaviour And How To Fix It.

Can I tell you what the number one cause of consistent bad behaviors is?

Whether it’s your toddler’s perpetual hitting or your tween’s huge tantrums or your teen’s utter defiance... the underlying reason is always the same.

In fact, this applies to yourself too. And...

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Focussing On The Positivity.

The twinkles (4-year-olds) were missing their teachers so when the teachers emailed me asking if we were interested in 30-minutes of once-a-week classes, I said sure why not.

The boys were thrilled and looking forward to seeing their teachers but when we started the zoom call, they got a bit...

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Helping Our Kids through Trouble With Friends.

Eisa: “Mama, I think I love Jannah more than she loves me.”

Me: “Yeah?”

Eisa: “Yeah. It makes me sad.”

Me: “That makes sense. I totally get it.”

Eisa: “You do?”

Me: “Yes. I always felt that way about people I love. That I love them...

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