Happy Birthday Pakistan.

I left Pakistan 15 (almost 16) years ago when I was 22. I got married and moved to a new country. A country I have come to love in many ways.

But Pakistan will always be my home. When I first used to say this, I used to get a host of reactions ranging from surprise to disgust to disbelief to...

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Part 2 of teaching kids about religion: How to do it in a fun way

Respectful heads up: religious content ahead

1- Tell stories. All sorts of stories. Not just prophets’ stories but tell stories of your own life when you chose the higher path because it was the right thing to do. “I decided to forgive my friend even though I knew she was wrong. It...

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How To Teach Kids About Religion-Part 1

Respectful heads up: Religious content ahead.

There are only three ways for our kids to learn about religion and want to live it:

1- Modeling

2- Through fun

3- Miracle/Qadr

Modeling:

1- Our children can’t be better Muslims than we are currently. And if all they see us do is hurried Salah...

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The Joy Of Living In The Moment With Your Children.

Have you ever been to a new country, city or even bazaar?

Everything seems new and interesting.

You want to pause and look at everything.

If it’s a new bazaar, you want to examine things by holding them in your hand, flipping them over.

If it’s a new city, you stop and appreciate the...

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How Boundaries Make Us Feel Safe.

It's always so exciting for me to talk to a new client/parent and get to know their story, and have the honor of helping them.

Lately I've had a few clients who had concerns about their toddlers screaming a lot. (This post is definitely not just for parents of toddlers though)

I was very...

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My journey~ Slowing down.

For a lot of parents, slowing down with their child seems like a lot to ask. They feel like they have too much going on to pause for their child's emotions, to mediate the fights between siblings and to problem-solve trouble areas rather than issuing commands.

I get it. I've never met a parent...

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Teaching Kids Emotional Regulation(part -3)

Now how to apply the knowledge in parts 1 and 2 so we can train our brains not to react to our kids with sudden anger? How to change our “anger habit"?

I call it a habit because habit is a technical word that has three clear components according to author Charles Duhigg (The Power of Habit:...

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Why Do Kids Say Mean Things And Act Rudely (Part2)

If you look at the first picture of the brain, the purple part is called “The Thinking Brain” or at least I’m calling it that. Scientists call it The Cortex and specifically where advanced cognitive skills lie is the FRONT part of the Cortex, thus called the Prefrontal Cortex or...

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What Is Co-Regulation? (Part4)

When your child is having big feelings; anger, sadness, disappointment, frustration or even excitement ("hyperactivity"). What's really happening is that it's like they have a storm inside.

Or in other words, their brain is experiencing some kind of stress response ("fight or flight").

Their...

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Loving What Our Children Love

When I was a teenager, I absolutely LOVED junk fiction. When I was younger I used to frequently read classics but once I got older, me and my friends were obsessed with these books.

Sweet Valley Twins/High/University

Judith McKnaught

Sidney Sheldon

Danielle Steele

I fantasized about having a...

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